Mourning as Christian Living

Something I’ve discovered in my graduate work is that secular authors who are often quite critical of Christianity have beautiful ways of talking about the transcendent or love or relationships between humans that point an arrow straight toward God (or at least, I read it that way).

Here’s an example: today I was reading Undoing Gender by Judith Butler, considered by many a foundational author for gender theory.  She writes this about mourning:
I think instead that one mourns when one accepts the fact that the loss one undergoes will be one that changes you, changes you possibly forever, and that mourning has to do with agreeing to undergo a transformation the full result of which you cannot know in advance.
I was stunned by this line. If we think of mourning in this way, we might call Christianity a lifelong exercise in mourning. In one sense, we are transformed because of a death in the first century. In another sense, we are constantly mourning the loss of a perfect relationship with God that we have never personally experienced. In both cases, our sinfulness and Christ’s death, we are being transformed (as Paul says, by the renewing of your minds) toward the people we will be on the new earth.  I think the season of Advent has a mood that fits this characteristic of Christianity.

Not only that, but the separation between us and God meant that God had to undergo a transformation and become incarnate, though most theologians believe God knew the result. This quotation, and some of the other things Butler said in that chapter about how human life isn’t possible without other humans, even though other humans are also what often threatens many people’s ability to live and thrive. We have to risk injury to exist, we have to risk mourning to love.  God took a risk in loving us already knowing that it would lead to Christ’s death. What a challenging example as we try to make ourselves vulnerable to each other.

God’s work in the world and in us is so complicated. A friend of mine likes to say that God is so organized, he’s never doing just one thing. I’m thankful for a God who teaches us about himself even through people who don’t know they are doing it.

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You said:
"Something I’ve discovered in my graduate work is that secular authors who are often quite critical of Christianity have beautiful ways of talking about the transcendent or love or relationships between humans that point an arrow straight toward God (or at least, I read it that way)."

I agree completely. And I have always chalked this up to the idea that all beauty and truth are ultimately rooted in God. It's almost as if we see shadows of Ultimate beauty in secular songs, works of art, or pieces of prose.

To me this is especially apparent in music or movies that might go directly against what we might call a Christian worldview. It is in this contrast, this juxtaposition against True beauty, that we can appreciate its value . . . even as it promotes a view or mindset that is counter to our own.

Nice post.
wonderful post.

we, as christians, tend to insulate ourselves and build walls instead of bridges. i think we need to be more courageous to find God in unexpected places, as Yancey elaboraed in a book. we should involve ourselves in art, literature, economics..all of life. bec Jesus is Lord of it all and we miss the grace that He has poured out on it.

thanks again
Being able to properly mourn the grief and loss that occurs in all of our lives is critical to spiritual growth. Too many Christians seem to see mourning as spiritual weakness and try to hide their grief from themselves and others. It's a big mistake that leads to a very unhealthy spirituality. Those who are interested in finding out more about this should read Peter Scazzero's book, Emotionally Healthy Spirituality. He devotes a chapter to how grief and loss can enlarge our souls. It fits in very well with the quote from Judith Butler. The book is a great place to start in finding help with this and other emotional problems that can cripple us spiritually. It will point you to quite a bit of good writing by Christians that deal with these concerns.
I've been having that similar experience with the concepts of "assemblage," "territorialization & reterritorialization" and "bodies without organs" in Gilles Deleuze & Felix Guattari's _A Thousand Plateaus_. The concepts allow one to realize connections, understand relationships, and see greater wholes that suggest an amazingly complex world that has plenty of room for God.

I agree. A Thousand Plateaus has a lot of really inspiring ideas about the complexity of relationships and God's creation (and other troubling ones, I'm not sure about their embrace of the monstrous). I found a lot to enhance my belief in Deleuze's _Difference and Repetition_ too. Not least that I think it is only through prayer that I understood any of it.

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