Why do Christians keep having sex before marriage?

Why do Christians keep having sex before marriage, despite all the church teachings and programs intended to prevent premarital sexual activity? That post by Dave Chen at the More Than Fine blog is getting a lot of attention today. Chen asks a very challenging question: what if our efforts to steer unmarried Christians (particularly teenagers) away from premarital sexual activity are actually having the opposite effect? If that's true, what can we do about it? If it turned out that something you were preaching was, against all your intentions, causing people to do the exact opposite, would you stop preaching it?

What do you think? I'm sure that those of you who are parents have had to grapple with this at some point in the process of raising your kids. Go read Chen's full post and share your thoughts. Romans 7:7-21 seems to be relevant to this discussion as well.

update: I've edited the post to remove a link that had some rather unpleasant content.

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I think this is because marriage is not as sacred as it used to be. Couples are divorcing alot more that before and to most marriage i now 'just a legal document or a piece of paper' it has no spiritual ties or requirements to society anymore. As sex is something that should be shared in marriage and marriages are now inevitably going to fail, i think that christians do not cherish marriage as much as we used to, so things that are associated with marriage e.g. sex are equally not as cherished as before.

I also agree that since marriage isn't being honored any more by Christian and these days one can get a divorce for no reason at all. There were only 2 reasons a Christian could divorce, adultery and an unbeliever leaving...it wasn't too long ago that getting a divorce was even harder than it is today and with women being able to support themselves more and being more independant and not willing to put up with abuse etc.....they can now leave. I will speak for myself after I became saved at 22 I remained celibate for 6 years till I met my husband and married only to have him leave me after 17 years for NO biblical reason like he did his first wife of 20 years. We were both Christians and I tried counseling and so fourth yet he is a quiter. So do I think I want to go through that again...nope. I still want companionship and have a high sex drive (never one of my marriage problems) and as long as God has allowed him to never be punished for what he has done in the church why should I? Church discipline is no longer used as it should be according to Matt 18 and 1 Cor 5. The reason God established his rules was for our benefit and as long as I (at my age) cannot get pregnant, have safe sex and both are tested, both are committed and stay monogamous, why not? Better than getting another divorce and being sinned against and hurt in that way. Sorry but the single loney life just isn't for me!

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