Would your church welcome a convicted child molester?

There's a fascinating piece in the NYT this week about a church that is grappling with a tough moral question:

In late January, Mark Pliska, 53, told the congregation here that he had been in prison for molesting children but that he sought a place to worship and liked the atmosphere at Pilgrim.

Mr. Pliska’s request has plunged the close-knit congregation into a painful discussion about applying faith in a difficult real-world situation. Congregants now wonder, are all truly welcome? If they are, how do you ensure the safety of children and the healing of adult survivors of sexual abuse? Can an offender who accepts Christ truly change?

I think most of us would agree that the church should be open to most anyone, regardless of their history--especially when they are open about their past and seek help. But that commendable sentiment doesn't seem quite so simple when this sort of situation arrives at your church's doorstep. The church in question is trying to find a solution that both welcomes Priska as a fellow believer and makes sure that nobody in the church is endangered by his presence.

A few questions to ponder:

  • How would this situation play out in your church if it were to come up right this week? If this situation has come up already in your church community, how was it resolved?

  • Pliska has expressed willingness to undergo extra oversight to put fears at ease (and perhaps to keep himself well away from even the slightest hint of temptation): he'd always be accompanied by an adult and would not go near children at church. Is this a reasonable level of oversight? Is it enough? Is it uncharitable to ask a repentant Pliska to put up with this, or does the nature of his crime make it necessary?

  • A hypothetical question: if Pliska were 100% "cured" of whatever impulses drove him to molest children, could he be welcomed into the community without concern--or would the horrific nature of past actions still require some form of special oversight?

  • If welcoming a former sex offender would cause others--nervous parents, perhaps, or adults who were abused themselves as children--to feel unwelcome or unsafe, should that be a factor in the church's decision?

  • Is your church already doing what it can to prevent any form of sexual abuse from taking place within its walls? Not every sex offender, reformed or otherwise, is likely to step forward publically as Pliska has done. If you haven't already, see Kim's recent post about preventing sexual violence in the church.

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Comments (6)

Here we go again talking about how to welcome the pedophile. Why don't we see what is the church doing to help the 25 % of the congregation who were molested as children and struggle daily. Church you don't get it.
I think it is right to assume most abusers were abused themselves. While that's not an excuse, it is important to have compassion for a repentant abuser. While the offender shouldn't specifically be interacting with the church's children, I think he could enter the church accompanied by another adult without posing any danger.
Don't know.  What I do know is that a friend of mine was part of a church whose pastor was a convicted sex offender (rape,) and that she and her husband knew about it, but everyone in their fellowship didn't.  He ended up being arrested for taking upskirt pictures at a Target (he was CAUGHT, he didn't come to repentance on his own) which ended up causing a split in their church - those who thought it was okay that he was trying to involve himself in leadership again, and those who didn't..  Thank God she and her husband are part of the latter. I would love to read a post about what you think about pastors who do things like this, or who get caught visiting strip clubs on ministry trips oversees, etc. and yet are still ordained and though no longer teaching, still receiving PAYMENT from the church.  Or those who have affairs and are "restored" to their "position." Any major deceiving of the body and still in leadership or holding a title.
I am a Christian and a convicted sex offender. Hardly a child molester but a convicted sex offender all the same. Check out my story here: http://www.pulp-truth.com/2011...
Thank you for pointing that out. I didn't mention the remorse because I can't live with it in my life anymore. Remorse heals. But eventually one has to move on from that as well. I feel terrible for the lives I've hurt...the teen girl involved, her family, my family, my church. There's never ONE victim. But as I have said, it's important to be a traveler because the next step after remorse and forgiveness is being the good Samaritan on your travel through life. Helping others. Encouraging others to heal...and that's all I was trying to do with that post.

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