Culture At Large

Is all this Christian sex talk a good idea?

Andy Rau

God wants you to have better sex (within marriage, of course)! It's a message that is being trumpeted from more than one church pulpit—we've noted severalexamples of recent efforts by Christians to challenge the stereotype that Christianity is hostile to sex.

Over at Out of Ur, Brandon O'Brien offers a counterpoint to all of this sex talk. His concern is not that the message of these campaigns is wrong, but that talking about the issue might ultimately distract from the Gospel and convey an odd and undesirable message to non-Christians. From O'Brien's post:

Ironically, about the time secular commentators have begun to voice their concern that our culture is overstimulated, the Christian church says, “I’ve got an idea; let’s have more sex.” [...]

There’s a part of me that wonders whether nonbelievers will look on Christianity, from an outsider’s perspective, and say, “Well, if my options are ‘take up your cross and follow me’ or ‘have sex every day,’ I’ll take option two, please.” What you win them with is what you win them to, or so they say.

I’m curious to hear what you think. Is this "tell 'em what they want to hear"? Or are we finally beginning to understand God’s design for sex in marriage? Does an emphasis on sexual fulfillment (or financial security, or anger management, or …) distract from the gospel? Or is satisfaction of all sorts an element of the gospel message of restoration?

He's asking for reader input, so head on over and share your thoughts (or comment below).

As for myself... some of these "Christians can have satisfying sex too!" campaigns strike me as clunky, but I can't really see how they'd be a distraction from the Gospel message. It's not like churches are preaching the wonders of marital sex instead of the Gospel. And a little over-exuberance on the subject now is understandable, given the church's history of awkwardness when discussing the place of sex in the Christian life. But what do you think? When you read about these church campaigns, do you rejoice that Christians are finally discussing this openly—or do you wince and wish they'd go back to preaching the Gospel?

And if you're not a Christian, I'd love to hear your thoughts about these "good Christian sex" books and campaigns.

Topics: Culture At Large, Home & Family, Sex