Rob Bell and Oprah aside, marriage wasn’t designed to solve loneliness

Branson Parler

Branson Parler
February 20, 2015

In telling Oprah that marriage is the solution to loneliness, Rob Bell underestimates a Biblical view of both marriage and singleness.

February 21, 2015

remembering an older Twila Paris song, "God Is In Control" there is a verse in the song that says, "culture can make its' plan, but the line never changes...God is in control." I am disappointed and saddened that this man who influences so many know is the spokesman for Christianity of New Age relativism. I for one will not be buying, and I feel no inclination to repent for believing letters over 2000 years old. I guess if you're Bell you can pick and choose which letters to ignore and which to follow. I am fully aware that I am choosing a way that departs with current culture, but I am more convinced that marriage is about much more than fulfilling loneliness and companionship and more about giving myself completely to Christ in my role as a wife and serves as a picture/type and fulfillment of the role of the bride of Christ, his church, in relationship with the head of the church.

February 23, 2015

I agree with you, krimicbar. The idea of marriage curing loneliness, and further, the idea that someone "completes you" also doesn't address the truth that marriage is ultimately about service and not about fulfilling your wants and desires. I've only been married for a few months, but I'm beginning to understand all the advice I received about having the heart of a servant, thinking of the other before yourself, in your marriage. Looking at marriage as a remedy completely misses that, because it seeks to use marriage to serve your needs first and foremost.

Doug Vande Griend
February 25, 2015

In all of the talk here about what marriage is or is not about, there is no mention of children?

It is my view that the greatest harm done by the drive to gay marriage is that it changed the underlying assumption about one of the main, if not the main, purposes for marriage (especially but not only from government's perspective): to provide an environment for the creation and raising of children. The gay marriage debate shifted the discussion from providing for children to providing for the happiness of adults.

July 31, 2015

In Reply to Doug Vande Griend (comment #26957)
I concur well said.

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